October is Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness Month and, as someone who had four pregnancy losses, I’ve been thinking about what this means. What do we want people to be aware of, exactly? Here are 10 things I would want others to know about pregnancy loss.

1. Pregnancy loss is common.

Until it happens to…


You might think that because I lost four pregnancies, I would be opposed to abortion. After all, I considered each of those pregnancies a life. I became attached to those lives the moment I knew I was pregnant. I was devastated when those lives ended. You might think I would…


By Kim Hooper

This past Tuesday, Senator Tammy Duckworth and Representative Ayanna Pressley introduced a bill that calls for employers to provide at least three days of paid leave for workers who experience a pregnancy loss. This is similar to the legislation that passed in New Zealand in March. …


By Huong Diep

As a gender-affirming psychologist, I am proud of the opportunity to amplify marginalized voices, especially those of queer couples, including transgender and non-binary folks in All the Love: Healing Your Heart and Finding Meaning after Pregnancy Loss.

Unfortunately, transgender pregnancy is highly misunderstood and often sensationalized with…


By Huong Diep

Hi, there. I see you. Yes, you.

I know that Mother’s Day is hard for you. Perhaps you have experienced pregnancy loss(es). Maybe you have lost your mother. Maybe you are grieving the loss of the possibility of being a mother. Whatever this day holds for you…


A few weeks after my sister gave birth to her third son, and a few weeks before Mother’s Day, I lost my first and only son in the second trimester of a pregnancy that had seemed perfect.

“We don’t have to do anything for Mother’s Day,” my mom said, knowing…


On March 25, every major news outlet ran a headline announcing New Zealand’s approved legislation granting women (and their partners) three days of paid leave after a miscarriage or stillbirth.

Like many others, I cheered. I cheered because this marks one of the first times a country has declared that…


With more women sharing their stories, the conversation around pregnancy loss is livelier than ever before. This is step one-breaking the silence so women feel less alone. Now it’s time for step two-changing the terms within the conversation so women feel less shame.

Recently, Peanut announced what they’re calling the…


Here’s the truth: I lost four pregnancies, and after each one, I hated my husband.

My first loss was an ectopic pregnancy, meaning the embryo took up residence in my left fallopian tube, which required emergency surgery to end the embryo’s life and save mine. The day after this surgery…


There are approximately 6 million pregnancies in the U.S. each year, and more than a million of those end in loss. A million. Every year.

Despite this unfortunate prevalence, there is no support infrastructure in place for people going through pregnancy loss. …

All the Love

Supporting and empowering people through pregnancy loss. All the Love: Healing Your Heart and Finding Meaning After Pregnancy Loss (Turner Publishing, 2021).

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